About Sassybear

Here’s some stuff that informs my perspective on life, the Universe, and everything:

  • I was born in 1971.
  • I am an openly gay man.
  • I came out in 1989 in my Freshman year of College.
  • I was bullied all through Jr. & Sr. highschool because people assumed I was gay.
  • I am the adult child of a (deceased) abusive alcoholic.
  • I sang in multiple choruses through college and after.
  • I played the Trombone through High school and after. (I’m not good.)
  • I used to perform in Community Theater.
  • I like drawing and once dreamed of being a comic book artists.
  • I have been with my husband since 1997, married since 1999, legally recognized in NY since 2006, and Federally since 2013.
  • I was born (and currently live) in New York, where I have lived for most of my life.
  • The only other state I have lived in is Arizona, for 8 years, as a child.
  • My husband & I explored moving to Toronto Canada in 2009.
  • I am a comic book reader and recently switched to digital comics.
  • I work full time and have been with the same Employer since 1998.
  • I went to College, but did not graduate.
  • I am polyamorous.
  • I am a naturist.
  • I love animals and currently have 2 dogs, both rescues, that I adore.
  • I have had pet mice, fish, cats, rabbits, and ferrets.
  • I’ve had one dog euthanized – it was the worst loss I have ever experienced.
  • I crochet a little, and knit even less, but like doing it.
  • I was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis in 1999.
  • My entire large intestine was removed in 2000.
  • I have Raynaud’s Syndrome, Crohn’s disease, & Gastroparesis.
  • I have developed a Gluten Intolerance.
  • Despite all my digestive issues, I am a compulsive eater and struggle with obesity.
  • My favorite cocktail is the Cosmopolitan.
  • I am a pacifist.
  • I was raised Catholic, but I am an atheist.
  • I helped create an LGBT chorus, LGBT bowling league & gay male naturist group.
  • I am a “bleeding heart” liberal.
  • I am a home owner.
  • I am still discovering who and what I am.