FYI: All are Welcome!

For the record, I support everyone’s right to be who they are and love who they want, including:

heterosexual, cis-gendered, bisexual, homosexual, lesbian, transgender, polyamorous, asexual, pansexual, monogamous, open relationships, theists, atheists, agnostics, binary, non-binary, gender-queer, naturists, and everything and anything in between.

We all have the right to live our lives, have our beliefs, and experience our loves, in ways that are natural and fulfilling to us.

Before you judge or attempt to dictate how other people identify, live, or love, ask yourself if you’re willing to allow someone else to dictate to you who you are, how you identify, and who you love.

If not, then you are an ally!

During this pride month, and in honor of the 50th Anniversary of Stonewall, I encourage you all to embrace and celebrate who you are, who you love, and what you believe.

See beyond skin color.

See beyond gender.

See beyond orientation.

See beyond belief system.

See beyond relationship structure.

See humanity in everyone!

Embrace diversity!

Explore acceptance!

Embody unconditional love!

We are all valuable!

Happy Pride!

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This article was in our AARP magazine this month and we got a kick out of it.

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My blogging will continue to be sporadic and erratic for awhile. We are dealing with a personal matter that has taken up pretty much all of my time, attention and energy. I have discovered new levels of stress and anxiety, and I look forward to the day this is behind me.

My sole bastion of support and oasis from the insanity has been Jeffrey. He continues to hold my hand through it all, offering assistance and solace whenever he can. His compassion, empathy, and unwavering support illustrate, once again, what an amazing spouse, partner, and friend he is. I seriously don’t know what I’ve done to deserve him, but I am grateful for everything he has done and continues to do for me and us.

I may be guilty of Hypergamy.

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It’s been a while or…Giraffe’s are cool

 Life is what happens to us when we’re busy making other plans. A family situation has required a lot of my time and attention for the last couple of weeks (hence no blogging); between that and the stressful work situation, it’s been taxing lately. We had some time to ourselves at home Saturday so we finally got to do some spring chores around the house. It was great to spend some time in the yard. I hadn’t noticed how much growth and greenery there was.

The two Magnolia bushes have already blossomed and shed their white flowers.  They have grown out and up and completely obscure the secondary front entrance to our house. I suppose we’ll have to trim them at some point, but I like that it deters people from mistaking that other front door as our main entrance.

June is LGBTQ+ Pride month, but it’s always pride month at Breen Acres.


I love Hostas! They’re easy to plant, look great, and even I can’t kill them, so we have them all over our yard. The Hostas along our drive way have yet to fully grown in, which makes it look empty, but if you look close, there are 3 baby ones we planted last summer that will fill in this space nicely, once they’re grown.


There are also 4 Hostas along the front of the house that will look nice once they fill in, too.


The back screened in porch is back to it’s former glory and ready for morning coffees and evening cocktails. Those lilac bushes will fill in soon to give us absolute privacy from the neighbors on our right.


The covered pavilion area is set up, too, but we’ve got a nest of carpenter bees we’ve got to dispose of and discourage from returning. That paper bag shooed them away last year (they mistake it for a hornets’ nest) but it isn’t deterring them this year.


Our little green Thuja emerald trees are really growing quickly and should reach 8 feet in the next few years.


The two Dwarf Apple Trees flanking our stone bench  (a Granny Smith and a Gala) have shot up, as well. And behind them on the incline are two smaller trees (whose names escape me.)


This is our Dogwood Tree that’s huge compared to when we first planted it.


Once we were done futzing around in the yard, we headed in to put our air conditioners in upstairs. Our house is a 2 floor cape and the central air just can’t keep the temps comfortable upstairs…sigh. 

The giraffes were happy, for sure (although they were already cool!)


Today, we installed car seats with seat belts in our back seat, for the dogs. We need to acclimate Harvey and Rita Mae to riding in these seats to prepare them for our 4.5 hour trip to Provincetown in October. Usually, Rita just hangs out on the backseat and Harvey sits in my lap, because we only ever take them on short rides to the Vet’s or Mom’s (both only 10 minutes away.) But we need to keep them safer on a long trip, so car-seats it is.  We did a test drive today to the Town Hall (about 15 minutes away) and they did better than expected. Harvey whined a bit on the way, but was pretty quiet and still on the way back.


We will start going on 3 rides a week, gradually increasing the distance, and always ending with walks and treats. Fortunately, this first ride really wiped them out.


All in all, a pleasant, peaceful, productive, and much needed weekend at home.

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For D Ate

That’s me today, the birthday beardy boy. (Take that Fearsome Beard And Tales of the Sissy!)

Mom’s surgery went well yesterday with no complications. Yay!

After a pleasant morning home this morning, with the hubby and fur kids, involving breakfast with gluten free baked goods and a viewing of the most recent episode of Doom Patrol, we’re on the way to pick up Mom, who is ecstatic about being discharged today. I’ll be playing “Sassybear: Male Nurse” at Mom’s house until my sister’s “shift” starts after work, around 5.

Tonight will be a quiet night with the Hubby and BF: dinner and drinks. No fuss, no muss.

And another year begins…

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I’m sitting in the hospital lobby, sipping coffee near the Starbucks kiosk from which it was purchased. My mother is in surgery, having her hip replaced. It had gotten so bad she could hardly walk, even with a walker, so it was time. She will be 74 in August, and is not yet ready to give up her mobility or independence, so surgery it is. We were up at 4:30 am and had my Mom here by 5:45. My husband Jeffrey (the Saint,) drove us here this morning and is on call to pick me up later today once Mom is back in her room and settled in for the remainder of her stay. She is hoping to be home tomorrow, so we plan to be back to scoop her up, new hip in tow, and bring her home where I will play caretaker until my sister arrives to take over for the weekend. While there are better ways to spend a day, I’d rather be here than at work.

Tomorrow is my 48th birthday. While it would have been nice to stick with the tradition we started 3 years ago, and return to the Animal Adventure Park in Binghamton to visit “my” giraffe family and meet the new baby, and Tajiri’s brother, Azizi, Mom’s surgery put the kibosh on out of town plans. Once my sister relieves me of home care duties, and I’m back home tomorrow afternoon, I will celebrate simply, with a dinner and cocktails with Jeffrey and the BF Jim, who is coming up from CT to help me celebrate. The sole relevance of my birthdays, at this point, are that they mark the completion of one more year of work behind me, and one less year until retirement. I will have exactly 7 years from tomorrow, and then I will be free.

Unless Jeffrey or Jim got me that winning lottery ticket that I asked for. Then it’s a whole new ballgame.

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Neighborhood watch

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Cinco De Cinema

It was a unique weekend for us. After dropping our lawnmower off at 8:15am Saturday morning, to be serviced and get new blades (were optimistic it may eventually stop raining,) we decided to be spontaneous and headed to a 9:40am showing of Captain Marvel.

I really wanted to see this before seeing Avengers: Endgame. As luck would have it, there was a showing of A:E 30 minutes after CM ended, in the same mall, so guess what we saw the same day?

While I was a bit underwhelmed by both films, I’m glad I got to see them both, back to back. We considered going for the trifecta and seeing Shazam! this weekend, as well, but it didn’t work out. I also felt guilty spending the day away from our dogs on Saturday, so I tried to make up for it by spending the day with them today, smothering them with attention (in between laundry, cleaning house, and completing other odds-n-ends tasks, of course.) Also, we realized, late in the day, that it was Cinco De Mayo, so I managed to cobble together some chicken fajitas with queso sauce (wrapped in lettuce instead of tortillas to make them a tad healthier) and although we did not have margaritas or sangria, we did have red wine, so close enough.

We will end the weekend watching Episode 4 of Season 8 of Game of Thrones. All in all, a lovely weekend and nice respite from the hell that passes as my job.

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Variety is the spice of life (and marriages)

After being married for almost 20 years, and together for 22, Jeffrey and I hit a marital slump. Life had become predictable, boring, uneventful…bland. But we had invested way too much time and effort building our life together to just let it all crumble and blow away so, in a moment of desperation, we did the only thing we could think of…

…we registered for Green Chef. Yup, as I’m sure you all suspected, Jeffrey and I faced the crisis of bland and boring meals head on and decided to give one of the many on line meal prep services a chance. We chose Chef Green because you can choose a meal plan specifically for a gluten allergy. You have an option of 6 meals a week to choose from. We are getting 3 meals a week, dinner for two. All ingredients come packaged and iced in insulated boxes, and take about 30 minutes to prep and cook. They come with nifty ingredient, prep, and cooking instruction cards.

We made our first meal Tuesday night, and it was fantastic: Salmon with Red Pepper sauce


While my final, finished, plated dinner didn’t look quite as fabulous as the picture on the recipe card, it tasted amazing!


Tonight, we made our second meal: Korean Fried Rice


I diced the veggies a little too small, but, again, despite our less than impressive plating technique, the meal was delicious.


So, Green Chef is two for two and gets double thumbs up from us so far. Tomorrow we make meal number 3…I can’t remember what it is, but it has bacon, so it’s going to be delicious no matter what! I feel like a real chef with all my fancy-schmancy ingredients, and the recipes are so easy to follow.  I am really excited about this and look forward to receiving and cooking more meals.

I think we might just make it another 20 years with the help of Green Chef!


(If not, we can always consider adding a third to our relationship!)


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Puppy Love And other stuff

(If your luckier, it’ll be more than one.)

My mom sent me the above image because she thought it looked like Rita Mae. I agree with her and the sentiment of the image, as well.

The bf Jim and his hubby welcomed a new sheltie puppy into their lives a week ago today and we’ll be heading to their house in CT today to meet him. His name is Quinton and these are some of the pictures they’ve shared:

I’m already in love with him.

This barrage of pictures and texts from them have only increased the love I feel for my own dogs (if that’s possible), as I reflect on the first time we met them and brought them home and how much joy they bring us. While I know most of my pics of my pups (both full grown dogs – 7 and 9 – but they’ll always be my puppies) are resting/sleeping pics, it’s because they only have two modes: super active or lounging/sleeping, and getting a non blurry picture of them while they’re moving is almost impossible. These are the ones I’ve managed to capture between last night and today:

Temps dipped again (when will spring ACTUALLY arrive? Aargh!) so here they are soaking up the heat together by the vent under our dining room Buffet. While Harvey spends a lot of tine in this spot, it’s rare for Rita to join him.

Caught napping:

Caught taking pictures of them while they’re napping:

This morning’s attempt at getting pics – Harvey refused to sit still and is still running around the house, ball in his mouth, waiting for us to chase him, but Rita is a lap dog first and foremost, and is rarely far from my lap (or Jeffrey’s if I’m unavailable.) And that girl knows how to pose:

She’s also been working on her opera:

“Figaro! Figaro! Fi – gaaa – rooooo!!”

Other than doting on our dogs, oohing and aching at Quinton texts, and riding out the temperature roller coaster that is the wont of the Northeast, I’ve not much to share. Work is…work. (It really helped to purge all those thoughts and feelings about work in my recent post – thanks for indulging!) We have some excursions coming up that I’m looking forward to, but I’ll discuss those in future posts.

Our main source of entertainment these days (aside from indulging our dog obsession) is watching favorite shows from our various streaming services: DC Universe, Netflix and Hulu. We’re all caught up on Doom Patrol, Runaways, and Queer Eye, and we’re excited about the new seasons of Veep and Game of Thrones. We’ve also discovered a new series on Netflix – “Special” – a show loosely based on the life of 20 something Ryan O’Connell, a comedian and author, who wrote about his experience as a gay man with cerebral palsy (“I’m special: And other lies we tell ourselves.”) The episodes are only 15 minutes long, so we breezed through the first season. I really hope they renew it.

That’s all the (bland) news fit to print.

Be well. Be fair. Be kind.

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