Training Day

So these two crazy guys are on a train to NYC. Seems a favorite little string quartet of ours – Well Strung – is performing at a favorite little dinner theater in the City – (Feinstein’s) 54 Below.

Say what? They’re hunks? We never noticed. We’s just a lover of musics, We is!

It sure seems crazy and a little irresponsible to miss a day and a half of work to pop down to the city in the middle of the week just to see four handsome men rosin up their bows and stroke their strings while we sip cocktails and enjoy the eye and ear candy. But that’s us: two wild and crazy guys.


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…even though it’s late, and you’re tired, and 3 cocktails in, and you’re visiting brother and his girlfriend have traipsed off to bed, you just want to sit with your husband and listen to quiet seasonal music, accompanied by the sounds of your snoring dogs, while the fire crackles and the holiday lights twinkle…because, does it ever really get better than this?

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Twenty One


21 Years ago, the guy on the left asked me out for coffee and our lives were irrevocably entwined from thn on.

It has been a journey that has taken us from extreme to the other, from penniless to prosperity, healthy to hurting, messing around to married, kid-less to canine dads, car rides to keywest, back yards to Broadway, cheap drinks to champagne, hopping apartments to homeownership, entry level to envisioning retirement, ups, downs, highs, lows, here, there, and everything in-between.

We’re no longer where, who or what we once were, and we have no idea where, who, or what we will be, but we do know one thing: wherever, whatever, whoever, however, we’ll be together, hand in hand, heart in heart.

Happy 21st “First date” Anniversary to my husband, my partner, my companion, my protector, my provider and my hero. Here’s to another 21 years of breaking all the rules, and doing it our way.

Give us any chance, we’ll take it
Read us any rule, we’ll break it
We’re gonna make our dreams come true
Doin’ it our way

Nothin’s gonna turn us back now
Straight ahead and on the track now
We’re gonna make our dreams come true
Doin’ it our way

There is nothing we won’t try
Never heard the word impossible
This time there’s no stopping us
We’re gonna do it

On your mark, get set, and go now
Got a dream and we just know now
We’re gonna make that dream come true
And we’ll do it our way, yes our way
Make all our dreams come true
And we’ll do it our way, yes our way
Make all our dreams come true
For me and you





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It’s gotten quite cold here, but it IS December in New York, so it’s to be expected. Haven’t done much since we got home from the Cape last weekend other than go to work (blech!) and copious amounts of puppy cuddle therapy. So with not much to share, my blog remains bare.

However, I’d be remiss if I failed to give a shout out to one of my blogger buddies, Anne Marie, for this fabulous surprise I received in the mail this week:

Few things give this gay comic fan a lift like a fabulous comic book themed gift! This bag will be used with pride for toting my tiara, bracelets and lasso about town.

Thanks so much, AM!

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Golly, Holly Folly

I’m in Provincetown, MA with my two favorite fellas, listening to holiday tunes, sipping cocktails and getting in the spirit to celebrate Holly Folly weekend! We will shop, dine, imbibe, and enjoy a piano sing along, Santa speedo run, , and a concert by the Boston Gay Men’s Chorus. A great way to officially kick off the holiday season.

Wish you were here!

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Obligatory Christmas Decorations Post

Jeffrey and I celebrate (secular) Christmas. We decorate, bake treats, send cards, listen to (more obscure) holiday music, and swap gifts.

We’ve run the gamut from not celebrating at all (no tree, decorations, gifts, etc.) to our current status of full blown celebration. I get that some people don’t do it, don’t like it, prefer to avoid it, and even hate it.  If that’s you, the more power to you – I get it – but this is not the post for you.

Since we don’t really socialize much anymore, the only ones who see our house all done up for the holidays are the two of us, our dogs, and my Mom. So this is my “lookit our decorations” post.


Main (formal) Living Room Tree:

Mantle aka Santa Clause Lane (with crooked trees – oops):

Kitchen aka Snowman Village:

Personal/Fun Ornament Tree aka Calico Corner:

Holiday Bar with (first ever) Giraffe Tree:

The Bear -in-a-Tree Corner aka Moose Knuckle Junction:


The Dining Room Table:


Dining Room Buffet aka Reindeer Way:

Peanuts Curio Cabinet #1:

Peanuts Curio Cabinet #2.

Fun Holiday Collectibles Curio Cabinet:

Christmas Bear Bathroom:


Back Porch Rainbow Tree:


There you have it! Sassybear Spirit in full color. Let the season shenanigans begin.

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Food Fest 2018

For those off today and partaking in events of any kind, I hope you have a super day.

I am enjoying a four day weekend. We are in Connecticut for dinner with the BF, Jim, his husband, Ken, and their hodgepodge of guests (friends, family, and other.) We’ll head home tomorrow.

While Ken is an amazing cook, and there has been a constant flow of food and cocktails since we arrived yesterday, I can’t possibly keep up. With all my digestive issues (Crohns, Gastroparesis, and Gluten Allergy) if I actually tried to indulge as much as everyone else, I’d die. So I sample small amounts of the safe foods here and there throughout the day, space out my cocktails, drink lots of water, and pop downstairs into our guest room to rest for a few minutes now and then to let my system work it’s sluggish magic. I don’t mind the constant bounty balancing act, I just wish my weight was more in line with someone who averages one meal a day, cocktails sparingly, and rarely snacks. All this navigation of nibbles, nosh, and no-nod would be worth it more if I at least got to be svelt because of it. Ah well, if that Annual visitor with the bag of toys can be jolly despite his size, (to quote Judy Garland) “why can’t I?”

Enjoy your birds, or what have you.

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Aloha, Lee!

Marvel Comics mastermind Stan Lee, one of the most important and recognizable figures in the industry, has died at the age of 95.

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Comic Comic Comic Comic Comic Conven-ti-on*

(*sung to the tune of karma chameleon.)

So this happened yesterday:

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Jeffrey and I registered back in September for IDs and logged into the waiting room yesterday at noon EST to wait to see if we would be randomly selected to purchase badges for the Sand Diego Comic Convention. Much to my shock, I was selected within 15 minutes and twenty minutes later, we had badges to comic con in July of 2019.

As a life time comic fan, this is a dream come true for me, as it will be my first real comic con experience (aside from the local dinky ones I’ve attended) and my husband is being incredibly supportive of us going (for a non-comic person.)

However, the comic con is only one reason this trip excites me. The second, and maybe even cooler thing about it:

we will be attending the con with a favorite blogger buddy, Fearsome Beard. This will be our first “in real life” meet up and I cannot wait, as I’ve wanted to meet Mr. Beard (and his hubby and dogs) for a very long time.

And, because I’m a glutton for gratification, if we can work it out, I’m hoping to make it a triple-threat trip and meet up with one of my other favorite bloggers and comic fans, Meanwhile, over in Cali…

This definitely gives me something to look forward to in the new year.


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LGBTQ+ History Month: Where do we go from here?


Thank you for joining me for my month long exploration of LGBTQ+ history. The posts here represent just a small sample of the pioneers, warriors, allies, and moments that helped shape the future of the LGBTQ+ movement and community. We have come a long way, but still have a long way to go…and we can and will…together.

Want to learn more about LGBTQ+ History? Try listening to a Podcast, browsing a Website, reading a Book, watching a Documentary, or simply use your favorite web browser and search the term “LGBTQ History.”

Here are few great places to start:

Committee on Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender History

Gay Pioneers

Making Gay History Podcast

50 Books about LGBTQ History

Documentaries exploring LGBTQ History

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