Perks of Friends

It was -4 degrees outside today, so we decided to stay in and stay warm. Jim and I spent 6 hours assembling this “Friends” Central Perk Lego kit he got me for X-Mas.

This is my first Lego set construction and I am hooked! I absolutely loved putting it together. There will definitely be more in my future.

Jeffrey’s gonna kill me!


I’ve been fighting an ongoing case of the Doldrums. It’s a perfect storm of events that are causing these, I’m sure:

My new health status quo, which is 90% great, but does come with daily maintenance that gets me down some days.

The frigid temps, which make drawing the curtains and lifting the shades impractical (as we need every barrier from the cold we can muster)let alone venturing outdoors for much of anything. This results in a lack of sunshine and fresh air, and makes our home seem more like a dungeon than a castle. I do try to step outside a few times a day, despite the cold, to take deep breaths and soak in some daylight, but it gets uncomfortable quickly.

The daily rigmarole of work and the seemingly increasing staff issues which stress me out and make me unhappier every day, despite my efforts to just keep plugging away and not let it get to me. I really worry about how I’m going to make it the next 1, 579 days until retirement. I want out so badly. I really wish retirement was feasible at this point, but it’s not. It’s no fun feeling “stuck” in a situation that makes me so unhappy, even knowing the pay off will be wonderful.

The lack of visits to my favorite places and with my favorite people, for over 2 years running. The once in a blue moon exceptions just aren’t cutting it. I miss Provincetown, Ogunquit, and NYC. I miss dinner and knitting with Dave, in-person G&G nights, dinner out with friends, shopping at my favorite local shops, hosting cocktail parties, and planning potential visits and meet-ups with other Bloggers.

The ongoing Pandemic, which just seems endless and unbeatable, especially with the droves of people who have refused to make any efforts to help control/stop the spread and continue to refuse to do so. It feels like a losing battle and, despite all of our efforts, I know we will inevitable contract this damn thing.

The non-stop negativity in the news, which makes the world seem bleak and society seem on the brink of destruction. So much lack of empathy, integrity, honesty, and community. I know all that stuff is still out there, but it’s sad we have to go digging through all the muck to find it.

My weight, which is increasing rapidly. I know what I need to do to stop it and reverse it, but I’m lacking the impetus to do so. Comfort eating and drinking is my vice, and I feel bogged down with the weight of laziness and lack of control.

I try hard to be a positive person, look at the bright side, find the silver lining, see the glass as half full, be grateful for what I have and not resentful for what I don’t. I try to be proactive in, and take responsibility for, making my life and experiences positive, meaningful, and fulfilling. I explore so many things that interest me, on and off line, like music, reading, crafting, collecting, etc.

There are bright spots and happy moments in my days and life, so it’s not like the doldrums never let up, but right now, it feels like those days that are overcast with dark clouds – even though the sun breaks through now and then and shines down for brief moment, the clouds come rolling back in and the light fades way too quickly.

Maybe I just need a cookie. (NOT!)

Come on and Zoom a Zoom a Zoom!

The G&G Gang

Tonight we had a 2 hour Zoom Chat with friends we’ve known for over 20 years. We affectionately refer to ourselves as the “G & G” gang, which stands for Girls and Gays (Jeffrey and I being the token Gays – ha ha!)

We caught up on our lives, laughed, and shared stories. It was uplifting, fun, and enriched my heart and soul.

I need more moments like this with good friends in my life.

Everything Possible

We have cleared off the table
The leftovers saved
Washed the dishes
And put them away
I have told you a story
And tucked you in tight
At the end of your knockabout day
As the moon sets its sail
To carry you to sleep
Over the midnight sea
I will sing you a song no one sang to me
May it keep you good company

You can be anybody that you want to be
You can love whomever you will
You can travel any country where your heart leads
And know I will love you still
You can live by yourself
You can gather friends around
You can choose one special one
But the only measure of your words and your deeds
Will be the love you leave behind when you’re gone

Some girls grow up strong and bold
Some boys are quiet and kind
Some race on ahead, some follow behind
Some grow in their own space and time
Some women love women
And some men love men
Some raise children, and some never do
You can dream all the day, never reaching the end
Of everything possible for you

Don’t be rattled by names, by taunts or games
But seek out spirits true
If you give your friends the best part of yourself
They will give the same back to you

You can be anybody that you want to be
You can love whomever you will
You can travel any country where your heart leads
And know I will love you still
You can live by yourself
You can gather friends around
You can choose one special one
But the only measure of your words and your deeds
Will be the love you leave behind when you’re gone

Oh yes, the love you leave behind when you’re gone.


Performed by The Flirtations:


We’ve been enjoying our long weekend so far.

Saturday we went on a small outing, despite the frigid temps, as I was getting stir crazy not having been out of the house since New Year’s Eve, other than to check the mailbox and let the dogs out. We made a visit to Hallmark (fully masked with KF-94 masks – not the best ones available, but still much better than simple cloth masks) and went in, since the only other people in the store were the two staff members behind the counter. I got a handful of Superhero Christmas ornaments at 75% off, and a Jim Shore Rudolph figure for 30% off (that will go nicely with my Rankin/Bass Christmas collection.)

Then we stopped at our local fresh seafood market (where we were, again, the only two people in the store besides the one staff member behind the counter) for some Swordfish Steaks, Chilean Sea Bass, Snow Crab Legs, Asparagus, and (Gluten Free) Rhode Island Clam Chowder.

Our final stop was at our local butcher shop for some Filet Mignon, Cheese, and a few Vegetables. This shop was more crowded, but we were in and out very quickly.

Last night, for the first time in 2 years, I enjoyed a lovely medium rare Filet Mignon, grilled to perfection on our Ninja Foodi Grill, with grilled Asparagus, and a lovely Cabernet Sauvignon. (I have been able to handle eating and digesting beef of any kind due to issues related to my Crohn’s.)

Today, with the temps still frigid, we stayed in and enjoyed a lovely breakfast while watching episodes of “Peacemaker” on HBO Max. It’s a pseudo-parody comedy drama superhero series based on a DC Comic Book character, although he was originally owned by Charlton Comics. (If you like seeing John Cena run around in his underwear a lot, this is the show for you.)

Then I took an updated inventory of my Christmas Jim Shore Peanuts statues (I keep a list on the Reminders app on my iPhone, with titles and pics of each piece, to avoid buying duplicates.) After that, we settled in by the fire with the pups, to watch a favorite movie, “The Fifth Element”, during which I fell asleep and enjoyed a good, hour-long nap.

After waking up and getting my bearings, I had a FaceTime chat with the BFJ, then had a quick dinner of fish, tossed salad, and clam chowder before whipping up a cocktail (Blossom Fizz with Tanqueray Sevilla Orange Gin) and settling in for another evening of viewing episodes of various favorite Television shows by the fire with the pups.

Tools of the trade for a Blossom Fizz:

1 oz Tanqueray Sevilla Orange
.5 oz Triple Sec Liqueur
2.5 oz Orange Juice
.5 oz Lemon Juice
Shake over ice, then add:
2 oz Club Soda

I suspect tomorrow will be more of the same. I can’t wait.

Stay safe, all.

Mixed Messages

I play Words with Friends and Scrabble on my phone with a handful of friends.

Apparently, both games have decided I’m a of a lust monster, because these sets of tiles both came up this morning:

In a game of Scrabble
In a game of Words with Friends

Maybe this should be my spy movie porn name?

“The name’s Sexdate. Manseed Sexdate!”

Too funny!