Looking back can be hard. Examining your life choices, after the fact, can expose a lot of what appears to be wrong turns, mistakes, wasted money, time and effort. It is easy to allow yourself to be filled with regret over things you’ve said or done, and to drive yourself crazy playing the would’ve, could’ve, should’ve game.
But it is a waste of effort and energy focusing on “what was.” It is for more effective to focus on “what is.” Either you like who, what and where you are in life, so regretting the things that got you here is foolish, since you got to where you are by coming from where you were; or you don’t like who, what and where you are, so focusing on decisions you’ve already made distracts you from the decisions you need to make going forward to change things.
It is not necessarily a bad idea to examine your past and learn from those things you did right and wrong. But getting stuck there prevents you from moving forward. Look at it, learn from it, and let it go. What is, is. What will be…well, that’s up to you.