How do you measure your own success? Is it tied to your education, career, income, relationship status, home or other “measurable achievement?” Do you compare your success to others? Are you even driven by the idea of success?
I often feel I am not a successful person. I did not grow up to be who or what I thought I’d be. I don’t have any of the careers I dreamed about, the education I planned for, I don’t look the way I wanted to, nor do I live where I thought I would. Although it could be argued, I suppose, that I have had moderate levels of success with some things: weight loss, career, obtaining and maintaining a home, I am usually very hard on myself, pushing myself to achieve more, do more and be more than I am, in the hopes of achieving some magical moment whereat I will finally feel successful.
But perspective can and often does change how I feel about my own successes. By some comparison, I could be doing a lot better with and in my life, but by other comparisons, I could be doing much worse.
In the end, I hope I feel I was a success at some things: taking care of myself, caring for my dogs, being a good partner, doing a good job at work, bringing as little harm as possible to others, and being the best human being I could be. And even if I think I could have been or done better, I hope I feel satisfied with how hard I tried.