Plus, it isn’t fitting (ins substance or style) in the new house. No way. No how.
Once we accepted this and started giving away our furniture to friends, the flood gates opened: if we’re going to purge, let’s really purge. Let’s downsize and simplify, embrace this change and see if we can reduce down to the bare essentials, only keeping the minimal amount of stuff we want and need.
So that is what we have begun to do and suddenly nothing in our home, no material possession, is sacred or untouchable. Every piece of furniture is being scrutinized; every piece of clothing, every chachka and knick knack, every piece of dishware, pot and pan has a potential target on it. Every closet, cabinet and container is being mulled over, questioned and put to the test: Do we need it? Do we want it? Does it mean anything to us?
Of course there are the essentials: clothes, bed, TV, laptops, dishes and comics. (Yeah, comics!)
Then there are a few items we will keep for sentimental reasons or just because we love them too much to part with: Our grandfather clock, our portable faux fireplace, our hydraulic table and stool set from Provincetown, our Steve Walker stretched canvas prints and a few other smaller pieces here and there. But beyond that, there is nothing else we really need to have or keep and some things we’ll be very glad to be rid of.
Ultimately, we have decided that our life will focus on what we do and who we do it with, not what we own. People live with far less than we do and are happy and grateful for it. The less we own, the less we have to lose, care for, clean, move or make room for. Our home will not be a showcase of expensive or pretty furniture, items and baubles. It will, however, continue to be a place of safety, acceptance, comfort, and modest accommodation for ourselves and our friends and that is perfectly fine with us.
In the end, wherever we go, wherever we live, whatever we own, it will be our home because of who spends time there and what takes place there, not because of the material things we furnish it with.
And as long as we have each other and our friends, we have enough to build a home with.