* Thank and link back to the person who awarded you this award.
* Share 7 honest (and perhaps unrevealed until now) things about yourself
* Award other bloggers, as many or as few as you wish, and explain why you chose them.
Although I realize these awards are generally used to direct readers to other blogs and/or bring them to our own (not a bad thing considering that’s one of the points of blogging: to get readers, right? Otherwise, we’re just talking to ourselves) I appreciate that Cubby explained why he chose the bloggers he did:
“My criteria, above all else, was to pick bloggers who consistently publish original, personal content that comes from life experience and introspection. I think these five bloggers are some of the most interesting out there, and I encourage all of you to visit their blogs regularly.”
I am flattered Cubby feels my blog is worth high-lighting and greatly appreciate his recognition. I am not one to seek fame and fortune (well, maybe a little fortune) and have no expectations that I will “be somebody” to the world, but it is very important to me that I matter to the friends and people in my life and, in this community, to have another blogger acknowledge me for anything is a huge compliment and ego boost for me. I also happen to share his reasoning when it comes to blogs I like best: those slice of life blogs wherein people write about their daily lives, struggles and relationships. I am not impressed by wealth, fame, popularity, gossip, pop stars or name-dropping. I am impressed by real people, living their lives, struggling with money, weight, relationships, families, coming out, finances etc. who keep on going despite the odds or obstacles. These are the people I can relate to and understand and who inspire me to try to be a better person inside and out.
I share a lot about myself here, so it’s hard to come up with 7 things you may not yet know about me, but I’ll give it a shot. I’m not promising these facts are particularly interesting.
1. I have every pay stub and time sheet I have ever gotten since I started working for the State of New York in October of 1998. The times sheets are here in a file at work; the pay stubs are in a file at home. There is no good or logical reason why I still have them all. I just do.
2. Every week, I get The Metroland, a local independent weekly newspaper, and cut out the crossword puzzle and file it my drawer at work. I used to do the puzzle the week it came out and first started saving them when I didn’t have time to work on the puzzle the week it came out. I have not done one of these crossword puzzles in over two years, but I still cut it out each week and place it in the drawer at work.
3. I continue to save pictures of naked and scantily clad men that I find on the web and in blogs, in folders on my laptop. I have never once gone back into the folders and looked at a single picture after saving it. I have thousands of them and I don’t know why I keep saving them.
4. I can’t decide which I like better: my head shaved or a film of hair on it. There are fans of both looks, on me, and I love both bald men and men with buzzed/crop/short hair, but I enjoy shaving my head in the shower and am used to doing it now so I continue to do it. I also like how it looks when 3 or more of us with bald heads hang out together. I’m a total bald groupie.
5. I want to get my nipples pierced, and have wanted to for years, but I’ve just never gotten around to doing it. Partly because I want to be in better shape so I can walk around shirtless in front of people and show them off, but that’s been my goal for two years and I’m no closer to it than I was when I started.
6. Some day, I want to sell or give away almost every single non-essential thing I/we own and move into a studio/efficiency apartment or teeny tiny house with nothing more than a futon, my laptop, my iPhone and the bare necessities (clothes, dishes, cleaning supplies and toiletries). I think it would be incredibly cathartic and cleansing and freeing and I really believe I would have no regrets.
7. I turn 40 this year on May 17th. I don’t care about getting older, but I worry that I still feel like a 13 year old pretending to be a grown up and wonder if I’m ever actually going to feel like a ‘real grown-up.”
I present the Stylish Blogger Award to the following bloggers who are all stylish in their own way. If I didn’t value and enjoy all of the blogs I read, I wouldn’t read them, and I am always hesitant to praise one blogger over another, but in the interest of playing along, here are 4 I have chosen to spotlight today:
Brent at A Journey By Myself
Brent shares his struggles as a mostly closeted gay man sharing his home with his wife and children as he tries to make big changes in his life involving coming out, divorce, his physical well being, moving and finding friendship, sex and love with other gay men. It is a journey many of us have been on to one degree or another and I empathize with many of Brent’s struggles. Mostly, I find myself frustrated that I can’t be there and be a present, real life friend while he walks this path.
Rich at A Work In Progress
Rich is a friend who moved away just after starting to blog and found the life he could never find here. Previously married with 4 grown, fabulous kids, Rich has made a life for himself he once doubted he ever could. Although I’m extremely happy for him and miss him dearly, I am envious that he has found and made the life he wants while I continue to struggle to do the same for myself. I live vicariously through him, and use his success story as inspiration that some day, I will have a similar tale to tell.
Jim at Jim’s Stuff
Jim and I have different beliefs but there is something about him that just fills me with warmth, and I don’t mean just in my man parts. He has a sense of wonder and appreciation for the world and the people in his life that I admire. He is always trying to better himself and see the good in others and I’d like to think we’d be good friends if we lived closer. And nothing is more adorable than the videos of him dancing in the shower…
Tom at Tom Whittaker’s Blog
Tom and I went to the same school. He was a year behind me and we did not really interact much while we were in school, nor did we ever connect or cross paths while he lived here, but we have since connected on Facebook via a mutual friend and become fast friends. Tom is, without a doubt, one of the most compassionate people I know and continually puts himself out to help others in need, asking fo
r nothing in return. He has chronicled his partner’s battle with cancer and chemotherapy, shared the limitless love and support his friends and neighbors have shown him and Dale, and never fails to make me tear up at least once a month if not more with one of his blog entries. Tom inspires me to do more and be a better person. If we were all half as giving as he were, this world would definitely be a better place.
Thanks again, Cubby, mostly for giving me something to blog about today 🙂