>Please tell our LGBT youth: It will get better!


This project has been brought to my attention and I fully endorse it and encourage every one to take the time to participate. If you are an LGBT person who has known the struggle and survived to live a happier, better life surrounded by a support system of any kind, please share that with those who do not know that’s possible.

Think how different or easier our life might have been if we had the chance to hear supportive words from even one single out gay person against all the negative voices telling us we were evil, sick, perverted and wrong and doomed to a life of misery. I know the power of being visible, even for a single moment, to another person; how it can change their life and make all the difference.

If you’ve ever wanted to get involved and didn’t know how, to help make a difference in someone’s life but didn’t have the money or opportunity, think how powerful your words could be and how little effort and time it would take to simply say “Hang in there, it WILL get better.”

Help spread the word and PLEASE consider participating. You could save a life.

The following is copied from Dan Savage’ advice column, Savage Love

I just read about a gay teenager in Indiana—Billy Lucas—who killed himself after being taunted by his classmates. Now his Facebook memorial page is being defaced by people posting homophobic comments. It’s just heartbreaking and sickening. What the hell can we do? Gay Bullying Victim Who Survived

Another gay teenager in another small town has killed himself—hope you’re pleased with yourselves, Tony Perkins and all the other “Christians” out there who oppose anti-bullying programs (and give actual Christians a bad name).

Billy Lucas was just 15 when he hanged himself in a barn on his grandmother’s property. He reportedly endured intense bullying at the hands of his classmates—classmates who called him a fag and told him to kill himself. His mother found his body.

Nine out of 10 gay teenagers experience bullying and harassment at school, and gay teens are four times likelier to attempt suicide. Many LGBT kids who do kill themselves live in rural areas, exurbs, and suburban areas, places with no gay organizations or services for queer kids.

“My heart breaks for the pain and torment you went through, Billy Lucas,” a reader wrote after I posted about Billy Lucas to my blog. “I wish I could have told you that things get better.”

I had the same reaction: I wish I could have talked to this kid for five minutes. I wish I could have told Billy that it gets better. I wish I could have told him that, however bad things were, however isolated and alone he was, it gets better.

But gay adults aren’t allowed to talk to these kids. Schools and churches don’t bring us in to talk to teenagers who are being bullied. Many of these kids have homophobic parents who believe that they can prevent their gay children from growing up to be gay—or from ever coming out—by depriving them of information, resources, and positive role models.

Why are we waiting for permission to talk to these kids? We have the ability to talk directly to them right now. We don’t have to wait for permission to let them know that it gets better. We can reach these kids.

So here’s what you can do, GBVWS: Make a video. Tell them it gets better.

I’ve launched a channel on YouTube — www ­youtube.com/itgetsbetterproject — to host these videos. My normally camera-shy husband and I already posted one. We both went to Christian schools and we were both bullied—he had it a lot worse than I did—and we are living proof that it gets better. We don’t dwell too much on the past. Instead, we talk mostly about all the meaningful things in our lives now—our families, our friends (gay and straight), the places we’ve gone and things we’ve experienced—that we would’ve missed out on if we’d killed ourselves then.

“You gotta give ’em hope,” Harvey Milk said.

Today we have the power to give these kids hope. We have the tools to reach out to them and tell our stories and let them know that it does get better. Online support groups are great, GLSEN does amazing work, the Trevor Project is invaluable. But many LGBT youth can’t picture what their lives might be like as openly gay adults. They can’t imagine a future for themselves. So let’s show them what our lives are like, let’s show them what the future may hold in store for them.

The video my husband and I made is up now—all by itself. I’d like to add submissions from other gay and lesbian adults—singles and couples, with kids or without, established in careers or just starting out, urban and rural, of all races and religious backgrounds. (Go to http://www.youtube.com/itgetsbetterproject to find instructions for submitting your video.) If you’re gay or lesbian or bi or trans and you’ve ever read about a kid like Billy Lucas and thought, “Fuck, I wish I could’ve told him that it gets better,” this is your chance. We can’t help Billy, but there are lots of other Billys out there—other despairing LGBT kids who are being bullied and harassed, kids who don’t think they have a future—and we can help them.

They need to know that it gets better. Submit a video. Give them hope.

To submit a video of YOUR STORY of How It Got Better— you’ll need a YouTube account. Follow all the standard YouTube guidelines for setting up the account, and for loading the video. Once your video is loaded and processed, email the YouTube URL to: mail@savagelove.net

Dan’s video on You Tube, with his partner, Terry.

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2 Responses to >Please tell our LGBT youth: It will get better!

  1. Ur-spo says:

    >indeed, a very excellent post.Happily, there is enough 'exposure' gay and lesbian teens now they are not alone, they are not freaks, and there are healthy homos to lead them. it is not like when I was a boy and I felt I was the only one/ nowhere to go etc. I hope gay teens can reach out – and we can mentor.

  2. >Excellent post – gonna check out the video!

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