I was born in 1971.
My daily lived in Phoenix, AZ for a few years when I was a child.
I am one of 5 children.
I have known I was “different” (gay) from age 5. I am the adult child of an alcoholic.
I was raised in the Irish Catholic faith.
I went to college but do not have a degree.
I have worked in retail, education, recreation and now as a civil servant.
I am married and have been since 1999.
I met my husband in January of 1997.
We started dating December 7, 1997.
He proposed to me on my birthday, May 17, 1998.
We registered as Domestic Partners with the City of Albany on August 21, 1998.
We had a wedding ceremony in Albany, NY on October 2nd, 1999. No legal benefits came with that.
We had a Civil Union in Bennington, VT on September 15, 2000. No legal benefits came with that.
We had a solemnization of vows in New Paltz, NY on June 5, 2004. No legal benefits came with that.
We got married in Provincetown, MA on May 28, 2005. No legal benefits came with that.
We got married in Toronto, Ontario, CA on September 2, 2006. Some legal recognition came with this.
New York passed a marriage equality bill in June 24, 2011. We are now legally recognized as married.
It only took us 12 years, 6 tries, 3 states and 2 countries to get (legally) married in NY state.
We do not have and do not want children. Ever.
I love animals, and dogs in particular.
We had a dog for 10 years. His name was Clyde. We had to put him to sleep in May of 2011. It devastated me.
We now have two dogs – Harvey Milk and Rita Mae.
Both of our dogs were adopted in 2012, 4 months apart, from the same animal rescue agency.
We have also had a Rabbit and 2 ferrets as pets.
I was diagnosed with Severe Ulcerative Colitis in May of 1999.
I had a total Colectomy in February of 2000.
I no longer have a large intestine.
I still have many health complications from the surgery and the disease.
I have struggled with my weight my entire life.
I have performed in community theater.
I helped found an LGBT chorus.
I have sung in a gay male chorus in both Northampton, MA and Albany, NY.
I love bowling, although I’m not very good at it.
I have bowled with both a gay and a straight league.
I have bowled in 4 bowling tournaments. I have never won anything.
I wanted to be a comic book artist when I was little.
I got a character published in DC Comics when I was in 5th grade.
I still read and collect comic books to this day.
Green Lantern is my favorite Comic Book Character.
I am an atheist.
I am polyamorous.
I am a nudist.
I am pro-choice.
I play Trombone….kind of.
I love Cosmopolitans.
I hate beets.
I have Galeophobia.
I am a pacifist.
I am a liberal humanist.
I was raised in an impoverished family and home.
Despite being overweight and out of shape I love being active.
I like to play tennis.
I like to swim.
I like to walk, hike and jog.
I like to bike ride.
I like to work out and exercise.
My various illnesses are huge stumbling blocks to my exercise regime.
I keep trying.
I sometimes suspect I might have a Body dysmorphic disorder.
I am a compulsive eater.
I go camping sometimes.
I have been blogging since September 2006.
I do not have a fetish that I know of. Except maybe beards and men in ties.
If I could only keep one possession, it would be my wedding ring.
It is easy to gain my trust. It is almost impossible to re-gain it once it is broken.
Because I overlook a lot, people think I am unaware. I am not.
I take friendships very seriously.
My heart has been broken more often by friends than boyfriends.
I have spent my whole life trying not to be a spineless door mat.
I have a lot of guilt issues.
I am better at standing up for others than for myself.
I think people take advantage of my generosity.
My two favorite places, so far, are Provincetown, MA and Toronto, Canada.
That is all…for now.